Yes, that’s right. Whether I have a headache or a writing challenge or any stumbling block, I tend towards this helpful ritual: practicing gratitude.

Gratitude leads to stepping stones that help me switch direction; putting me where I should be. Where I want to be: in a wondrous, thankful state of mind.

But it’s not a quick, “I’m thankful for…” Gratitude must be felt in the heart. It’s an essential quality for fostering positive feelings and thoughts, providing an automatic lift when most needed. The deeper it’s felt, the longer that gratitude-high lasts.

We humans tend to take a lot for granted. At least I do. But taking time each day to appreciate the countless gifts in my life changes my state of mind. Keeping a gratitude journal is helpful, but even thinking and concentrating on blessings works. Here’s a sampling of what I either write down or deeply contemplate in appreciation:

– the love of family and friends (including canine and feathered pals).
– warmth, comfort, sweet scents, and birdsong.
– blue skies, nature’s beauty, possibilities.
– all the many material conveniences.
– I’m a published author!
– writing, gardening, walking, driving, even cleaning! So many luxuries at my disposal (washing machine, vacuum).
– the valuable lessons in every experience.

This simple practice isn’t a Pollyanna approach, but it is an approach that helps keep proper perspective. It promotes understanding of our own situations and that of others. Wouldn’t you agree that most of our problems either stem from or are made worse by a poor attitude? I know mine are. And practicing daily leads to a regular habit of carrying a grateful heart. The more I practice, the less room there is for negative aspects to sneak in. I’m betting there are many of you out there who are already practicing, and that thought fills my heart with gratitude!

I’m not embarrassed to admit that for a long while, I’ve really enjoyed watching Hallmark movies. Or any feel-good films featuring picturesque scenery and clever banter. Happy endings are non-negotiable. Even if they’re predictable, too alike, too rosy — I enjoy all things rosy.

My husband is a fan of action and sci-fi films, and a few detective shows. Because he’s wonderful, he likes to watch my favorites, too: movies from the thirties and forties, and carefully selected, newer TV comedy shows and flicks, and a couple of PBS mini-series. We add Hallmark type films to the list because we can safely go to sleep at night with simple, pleasant thoughts in our heads.

The big draw for these films is that they’re not only pleasing to the eyes and mind, but the cast members come in all ages, shapes, and colors. Several times I’ve caught myself with a smile on my face during the movie. I do poke fun at them sometimes, and a few films are a bit cornball, but most are enjoyable.

The typical Hallmark heroine is a smart, professional, well-dressed, perfectly made-up female, who appears to own her own expertly decorated home. She could be experiencing a slump or be without a job. Or she’s made a poor choice in dating the wrong man and a breakup is in order. But as these movies unfold, the appeal often grows. Family is an important factor; what I love is that even family members who didn’t get along find a way to appreciate and forgive each other. Since real life doesn’t always go smoothly, it’s nice to experience it vicariously.

Hallmark movies provide reminders and examples of positive behavior: a woman who took her husband for granted realized the vital role he played in her life and rekindled her love for him; the heroine’s initial immaturity blossomed into maturity when she took over temporary responsibility of her nieces. Ultimately, who doesn’t love a happily-ever-after with plenty of eye candy and people who mostly treat each other kindly? Count me (and my hubby) in.

Here we are, autumn is beginning and change is in the air. IMG_9129

I recently read that as the days grow shorter and nights longer, many feel a sense of sadness. Yet, another article reminded me that we have the ability to create our own joy, any time, any place. Is it that easy? I think so. It’s a matter of turning the mind to where it should be, rather than to where it wanders. A few simple suggestions:

– Try a change of scenery
Indoor or outdoor, change can be good. An art gallery, a mom & pop shop, a toy or book store, can captivate and trigger a change in mood.

Outdoors, take a walk in a different neighborhood, in a park or by the beach or a lake, if possible. I happen to live near a California Mission; a lovely place to visit with gardens…ah yes, a garden can be a big mood lifter. So can gardening. After I buy a plant and bring it home, I’m not always quick to transplant it, but once I start the process, it feels wonderful! Nurturing, helping it along, and watching it grow are all sweet mood lifters.

– Gratitude is a surefire way to invite joy in. Lifts may be fleeting at first, but after a little practice, the sweet after-effects of a full heart can linger. Writing in
a gratitude journal or simply sitting quietly and contemplating all there is to feel grateful about, sincerely grateful, will make a difference.

– Take a walk down memory lane, (focusing on good memories, of course). Do you have a tangible photo album or a photo library on your phone? Take a look and recall the best of times.

– Do something kind for another person, whether it’s reaching out by phone, email, or letter, or keeping them in your heart and prayers.

– Watching or reading something uplifting and joyful helps, too.

What do you do to give yourself a lift?