Putting New Year’s resolutions aside, I’d like to reflect on past year (and previous years’) successes; to appreciate accomplishments. We’ve got this powerful gift of memory to help us recall the good stuff, what we’ve learned, and how we’ve changed through what we’ve learned.

Here goes:

– I’ve written six novels plus a picture book, and a few short stories. One big success was having a romance short story published in Woman’s World magazine. What a gift! I truly thought that would never happen. Same with the published novels and books. Miracles!

– I’ve learned that there is no more liberating action than to give someone kindness in return for unkindness. Not an easy or initially appealing feat, but after doing it once, I realized what a great benefit it was, not just for me, but hopefully, the other person, too. It gave me a sense of gentle empowerment over an unpleasant situation.

– So many lovely people I’ve encountered in recent times! SOOO many, both virtually, and in person. I’ve learned from them and had opportunities to work alongside many of them. Even people I run into at the grocery store, library, big box stores…you name it…have been absolutely wonderful. There are plenty of nice people out there.

– I have read an exceptional number of great books this past year, many of them novels and inspirational readings, that serve as reminders of what is important in life. What to hold close to my heart.

– I make a point to recall anything that kindles my enthusiasm, gratitude, motivation, and best behavior. Don’t we want to be the best version of ourselves, whenever possible?

– Regarding mistakes: Learn the lessons and move on. This helps us look ahead with confidence. If we do our part, we won’t repeat mistakes.

– On pending situations: Be patient without feeling discouraged. Easier said than done, but being hopeful is a big help. No, I am not singing, “The Hills are Alive with the Sound of Music” in this photo, although it looks like I am. I’m just happy that the stream didn’t overflow and wreak havoc. :)

Yes, that’s right. Whether I have a headache or a writing challenge or any stumbling block, I tend towards this helpful ritual: practicing gratitude.

Gratitude leads to stepping stones that help me switch direction; putting me where I should be. Where I want to be: in a wondrous, thankful state of mind.

But it’s not a quick, “I’m thankful for…” Gratitude must be felt in the heart. It’s an essential quality for fostering positive feelings and thoughts, providing an automatic lift when most needed. The deeper it’s felt, the longer that gratitude-high lasts.

We humans tend to take a lot for granted. At least I do. But taking time each day to appreciate the countless gifts in my life changes my state of mind. Keeping a gratitude journal is helpful, but even thinking and concentrating on blessings works. Here’s a sampling of what I either write down or deeply contemplate in appreciation:

– the love of family and friends (including canine and feathered pals).
– warmth, comfort, sweet scents, and birdsong.
– blue skies, nature’s beauty, possibilities.
– all the many material conveniences.
– I’m a published author!
– writing, gardening, walking, driving, even cleaning! So many luxuries at my disposal (washing machine, vacuum).
– the valuable lessons in every experience.

This simple practice isn’t a Pollyanna approach, but it is an approach that helps keep proper perspective. It promotes understanding of our own situations and that of others. Wouldn’t you agree that most of our problems either stem from or are made worse by a poor attitude? I know mine are. And practicing daily leads to a regular habit of carrying a grateful heart. The more I practice, the less room there is for negative aspects to sneak in. I’m betting there are many of you out there who are already practicing, and that thought fills my heart with gratitude!

I’m not embarrassed to admit that for a long while, I’ve really enjoyed watching Hallmark movies. Or any feel-good films featuring picturesque scenery and clever banter. Happy endings are non-negotiable. Even if they’re predictable, too alike, too rosy — I enjoy all things rosy.

My husband is a fan of action and sci-fi films, and a few detective shows. Because he’s wonderful, he likes to watch my favorites, too: movies from the thirties and forties, and carefully selected, newer TV comedy shows and flicks, and a couple of PBS mini-series. We add Hallmark type films to the list because we can safely go to sleep at night with simple, pleasant thoughts in our heads.

The big draw for these films is that they’re not only pleasing to the eyes and mind, but the cast members come in all ages, shapes, and colors. Several times I’ve caught myself with a smile on my face during the movie. I do poke fun at them sometimes, and a few films are a bit cornball, but most are enjoyable.

The typical Hallmark heroine is a smart, professional, well-dressed, perfectly made-up female, who appears to own her own expertly decorated home. She could be experiencing a slump or be without a job. Or she’s made a poor choice in dating the wrong man and a breakup is in order. But as these movies unfold, the appeal often grows. Family is an important factor; what I love is that even family members who didn’t get along find a way to appreciate and forgive each other. Since real life doesn’t always go smoothly, it’s nice to experience it vicariously.

Hallmark movies provide reminders and examples of positive behavior: a woman who took her husband for granted realized the vital role he played in her life and rekindled her love for him; the heroine’s initial immaturity blossomed into maturity when she took over temporary responsibility of her nieces. Ultimately, who doesn’t love a happily-ever-after with plenty of eye candy and people who mostly treat each other kindly? Count me (and my hubby) in.